A week ago I was driving in down town San Jose. I stopped at a red light.
My attention went to three boys, all about 15 years old, that were waiting to cross the street. They were all so happy in each other’s company, it looked like they had spent the majority of their lives together.
I then looked closer at each boy.
The first was a tall, skinny, white boy on a mountain bike. Next was a pudgy african american boy with a back pack, reminded me of a mini, younger Ice Cube. He looked cool and independent, had ear phones in and was just chillin with the other two guys. The last boy was of asian. He had a skate board that he was playing around with.
Sometimes if you look beyond the news and the hype you will see the reality … that we are all in this together … no matter what we look like or what type of music we listen to.
I want to continue to make this more of the norm in America. If you agree check out Youth For Human Rights.
Eric is one of the most phenomenal people I have ever had the privilege of knowing. He showed me this poem in 2002 and I told him that all parents and kids should read this. He has an ability to impact people with his communication that is beyond anything I have known. The message is true.
The most gut wrenching cry that ever you heard,
Is frustration that follows the misunderstood word,
The child is restless and can’t sit quite still,
He’s nervous and angry and feeling quite ill.
He wants to go home or go play in the sand,
His pencil is shaking inside his right hand,
He’s blank and washed out and not present or there,
He’s kicking the desk and he’s pulling his hair,
He’s yawning, distracted and won’t settle down,
Instead of a student he’s now the class clown,
He can no longer read so he’s playing the fool,
He’s got no more attention or focus for school.
PLEASE make him look back – oh – a sentence or four,
And clear up the word so he’s bright and RESTORED!
If you don’t know the strength of a dictionary,
The psychiatrist will move in and SCREAM, “A.D.D.!”
Then watch as your child takes a nice little pill,
That darkens his spirit and dampens his will,
You’ll be sorry years later when he hasn’t a thrill,
Well look at it this way – at least he’ll sit still.
The lesson’s so easy it might seem absurd,
But all that needs fixing is ONE LITTLE WORD!
Do you hear me? You get it? Please tell me you heard:
NEVER LET YOUR CHILD PASS A MISUNDERSTOOD WORD.
Based on the Study Technology of L. Ron Hubbard
On Saturday I got in my car to drive back from Sacramento.
I usually have music or something that I am listening to. I pushed play to listen to the CD that I had.
Then I just decided to turn it off.
I drove the entire way from Sacramento to San Jose with no music or talking – 2 hours.
I had made that drive at least 100 times.
But this time I saw things and noticed things that I had never seen before. It felt like I suddenly owned the road … funny feeling.
Three days ago I realized the value of being able to stop, throw things out, seperate from and MOVE ON.
This is something that has been a difficult thing for me in the past.
I like things to work out one way or the other and feel like I just can’t let go no matter how hard it gets.
Once I saw that I had this problem I realized that I can let go…
and I must say …
It does feel good to just let go every once and a while.
There are certain ways that you can go through life:
- Run through it, paying attention to only those things that bring you pleasure. Ignoring or pushing out of your way anything that could or would attempt to get in your way.
- You can do the exact opposite … putting all your attention on what is in your way.
- Or you can experience life … confronting the things that are trying to get in your way, look at them for what they are (barriers) and move them or go around them and continue on your way focusing on what matters.
My advice … Dream big and never lose sight of those goals. That way I think the bumps in the road become a little more obvious.
Locked in the travel of time.
Thoughts of you fill my mind.
The dream begins.
by Lauren Sweetland
5 March 2007
In life you are usually faced with two decisions when dealing with other people that you disagree with or have some problem with.
1. Sit on your feelings and continue to feel that way. Usually this continues to grow as time passes.
2. Or have courage and talk to the person directly.
My suggestion is a little different:
Stop for a minute and look at the person (or visualize if you are not together at the moment) and find ONE thing that you like about them. Decide for yourself that you can come to an understanding with that person’s point of view. Then try to work it out, sure there might be some yelling or tears … but work it out.